Alpha Mail: there is always hope

A long-time reader writes in with an update: Wanted to give you one more update on my progress, since I still consider Alpha Game to have be...

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A long-time reader writes in with an update:

Wanted to give you one more update on my progress, since I still consider Alpha Game to have been very influential in helping me transform many aspects of my life.

This is about more than just game, even though I wasn't able to implement every specific piece of advice you first gave (still no awesome bull-headed cane for me). I'm now in law school in a good part of D.C. I go to a good church, have a good social life, and am still growing....

This didn't result from any one action--not lifting (which I don't do enough of), growing a beard, or even being willing to go to more bars and take more chances. Fundamentally, the summer of 2013 was a complete shift in attitude. It took some time to fully inundate my thought processes, and I anticipate continual growth and learning.But, when it comes down to it, it was simply this:

I am responsible for my life.

No one else.

If I'm not where I want to be, I have to fix it.

If I don't have enough friends, I have to fix it.

If I can't find a girl, I have to fix it.

If I'm not in shape, I have to fix it.

Perhaps the only exception is my relationship with God; I'm responsible for that, but can only continue in faith and perseverance with God's help and grace.

All of the practical outworkings and new understanding of masculinity are secondary, even though I learned about them first. Without a fundamental re-orientation--without realizing that I and I alone get to make the choices about how my life unfolds--I could never be where I am today: perhaps the happiest I've been in all of my life.

He even sent a picture of himself with his pretty, slender girlfriend. Now, it would be easy to dismiss this as nothing more than Game-related happy talk by someone who happened to get lucky, except for one thing.

The man is blind.

So, what is holding you back? What limitation or weakness do you have that is so much worse than not even being able to see?

Hope, faith, and love. Don't shy away from any of the three. They are, quite literally, the essentials.